What You See, Hear and Feel Becomes Your Reality – External Sensory Perceptions

sensory perceptions

Are your sensory perceptions serving you?

We all know that today we process far more information coming in through our senses than we ever previously did. The vast majority of this information never makes it to the conscious part of yourself, it lands in the subconscious. This does not mean the information has no impact on you, on the contrary, it has a greater effect because you don’t control it and most don’t even realise the impact, so it sneaks up on you. A lot of people walk around like sponges without any restriction to what information they absorb. Just like a friend can bring you down or lift you up depending on their own energetic imprint at that moment, you are influenced by not only what you feel, but also what you see and hear.  

Just like your trauma and environmental programming sits in your subconscious directing your reaction patterns to situations you encounter, media, relationships, society, geography, etc. affects your attitudes and moods. It all really comes down to being aware of your sensory “intake”. Engage in healthy communications in your relationships, watch TV/movies that uplift you, limit your exposure to advertising, focus on what you support in society and help those in need and be in places that energise you and help ground you; these are just some examples of how we can work towards letting our external sensory perceptions help us as opposed to dragging us down. 

We are surrounded by negativity in the news, suggestive messaging in advertising, division and conflict in society and ego driven motives in relationships. With this bombardment of negative energies it is really tough not to get swept up in the machine and partake in the perpetuation of negativity. This is where we are sheep, we do not see any reason or possibility of change because “this is the way things are”. I am here to tell you that there are compelling reasons and not only possibilities, but necessities to change. However, it is each and every one of our responsibility to make changes within us, it is not anyone else’s responsibility. 

Let’s take a look at some of the major areas that trigger and influence us in our every day life:

  • Relationships
  • Media/advertising
  • Social media
  • Society
  • Geography


When you argue with someone, it leaves you feeling pretty poorly inside, doesn’t it? You may have said things you didn’t mean, you may have been belittled or just drawn in a screaming match. In any case you are left affected by the altercation. How long do you carry around this burden of the altercation? Do you let it go only when the other party apologises or do you just stuff it deep down where you don’t have to deal with it? So, is this feeling you are left with something that was created by an outside force? No, any emotion or feeling or reaction is always created by you, but your interactions may trigger you to create it. Some relationship experts, and I use the term experts lightly in this case, suggest that you need to have fights now and then to keep the relationship alive. There is actually never a time that you would be better off arguing with anyone to the point where you get angry or upset. I think what they mean to say is that you need to always communicate your truth to your partner, family, friends, etc. so that you maintain that meaningful relationship. No yelling or screaming is ever called for.

If you are upset, communicate it in a healthy way. In the case where the person you are interacting with and has triggered the upset cannot recognise that you are upset and the reason for it, nor giving you space to express yourself, then yelling is not going to change that. In that situation you have to just express your disappointment with the lack of empathy for you and move on. The most important step in this situation is to forgive yourself and the other person to release the pent up emotions that you may have. Also, be grateful for the lesson the other person gave you; it could be that you learned something new about that person or perhaps you learned something new about an aspect in yourself that gets triggered and why. It is when you take something personally that you start reacting from the point of your ego.

If you end up in a situation where one of you do yell, if you are the delivering party, apologise to yourself and the other person for raising your voice and not communicating effectively. If you are the receiving party, calmly state that you do not deserve the disrespect of being yelled at and will leave the space if things don’t calm down. Again, don’t take it personally, the reason you are being “yelled at” has everything to do with the other person and their perspective. 

Forgiveness and gratitude are you main tools to successfully getting out of accumulating negativity from your relationships. Of course there are many more intricacies to consider, but this is a starting point. 

Media, advertising and computer games

Until you try choosing positive messaging in your media intake, you probably won’t realise the impact TV, movies, news and advertising has on you. The message delivery system is designed to make you feel bad as it better grabs your attention. Take a look at these points:

  • News broadcasts are predominately about bad things that have happened
  • Pharmaceutical advertising is telling you that you have a condition and their chemical is the only one that is going to make you feel better
  • Fashion advertising tells you that you have not succeeded because you are not wearing their brand
  • Movies and computer games show violence, imbalanced relationships, gratuitous sex, etc. as something we should expect from life.
  • Reality TV is focused on mocking people and showing them off at their most vulnerable

All these points serve to make you fearful of the world and humanity, cause you to feel bad about yourself, make you sick, eliminate your empathy and judge those around you, not to mention cause you to see yourself as separate from others. I am sure these are not the influences you want your subconscious to be programmed with, are they?

Imagine how you would start feeling if you chose the content you allowed your subconscious to pick up by choosing comedies, positive news, mindful content and move away all together from news and advertising. I have personally made a conscious effort of limiting my exposure by taking away my TV and only watching on demand programming. I also subscribe to Positive News, Happinez and Soul Hub, giving me content that shows a world that is positive and creative. It doesn’t make me ignore all the challenges the world has, on the contrary, it helps me come up with ideas of how to make it better. What would happen to our world if we all did that?

Social media

This is the double edge sword; it connects us to a vast variety of information and allows individuals to reach out through grassroots networks, but it is also highly addictive coping mechanism for many young people today. As many thing is can be used for both good and evil. 

What I want to address for the purpose of this article is the information shared by some of our friends that has a sole purpose of creating fear. We have also seen that governments use social media as a subversive tool to wreak havoc on national election by disseminating divisive messages. The messages that appear in our feed have the same effect as the news on TV, in our digital as well as hard copy newspapers, but with the added boost that the information now comes from someone you know, which subconsciously adds a layer of trust. Thankfully, you control the content that appears on your feeds. I am ‘ruthless’ in unfollowing (not unfriending) people that I am connected with on social media that perpetuate negative messaging. I apply the same filter to groups I belong to, if there isn’t a positive vibe in a group, off I go!  Your friends won’t actually know if you unfollowed them, but you will have less negativity to deal with. 

Again, this is not about putting your head in the sand, it is about protecting your energy from the constant bombardment of the negative messaging we are exposed to. For example, you don’t need to show horrible images of animal torture in the fur industry, show the beauty in the living being and target your message from a positive angle why people should be kind to animals and not support the fur trade (please note, I am not making any arguments for or against the fur industry, this is just an example).


I could write books on this subject, but I will keep it short in this article by challenging you a bit. What do you think is the driving force that make us allow governments and government institutions to exert complete control over us as human beings? Is is because politicians and civil servants are superior to the rest of us? Of course not, they are human just like the rest of us. However, I would argue that the reason that we hand over the power to govern us is fear. We fear the past because, let’s face it, today is the best it’s ever been. We fear the future because we do not know it and we somehow believe this is as good as it gets, we cannot become better than this. The system is set up to create fear and division so that we won’t seek to create something new. If we did, politicians and civil servants would be out of jobs and they couldn’t have that. Hence society will, as a living organism, make sure your focus is on “us vs. them”, “follow us or this bad thing will happen”, etc. If you take a look at politics from a humanistic point of view you will see that it serves no one apart from the system itself. I am a willing participant in society, but I try to internally refocus from what could happen in any given situation in society to accepting that what ever is going to happen will happen. Beyond that, I then focus my attention on what I would like to see as the future of our society, partaking less in the game of us vs. them. Focus on what you are for and less on what you are against.


I think, unless you are a realised HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) or a realised ‘Empath’, it is when get older and more reflective that we pay attention to our geographical surroundings. What you see, hear and feel as you step out your front door will be what inspires you and drives your passion or weighing you down, draining you of energy. Artists are, in many cases, very adept at realising their environment is key to allowing their creativity to flow unhindered.

To show case this with a personal example; when I was living in New York City I remember walking out of our building on the Upper East Side (77th and York) my mood would change in an instant dependent on the prevailing energy in the City on that day. I didn’t understand this at the time, but now as I have been trained in the art of controlling my ability to sense energy, I find it fascinating. Now, add the noise, chaos, media imprint, advertising (I worked in Time Square!), etc. and I would be exhausted before even getting in the office. I love cities for the energetic flow and the ‘buzz’, but in terms of an optimal environments, cities weren’t, nor are, the best place for me to be. I need access to nature and solitude to recharge.

Paying attention to your sub-conscious ‘hygiene’ is no different than paying attention to your everyday physical hygiene, do it or you get sick; simple as that.  If it all appears overwhelming to you, start in small steps. You may want to wait until noon to look at your social media and the news and then only glance at it a set number of times during the day. It is important that you just make a start and work your way towards becoming aware of how your external surroundings and sensory environment affect you. 

Take care of what sensory perceptions you let in from your external environment into your sub-conscious and you will notice big shifts withing yourself. 

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You Have To Be What You Want To Become

What you want

Let Your Passion Define Who You Are Today, Not What You Could Be Tomorrow

One of the first questions I ask my clients when I sit down with them for the first time is, “Who and what are you?”. I then proceed to challenge them with “Ok, so you are …., is this your ultimate goal?”. Very rarely the person they see themselves as and the person they want to be are the same. So what happens when you put your happiness in the future? Yes, absolutely correct, it stays in the future. This is true for everything. 

If you want to be a writer, don’t say “one day I will be a writer”, instead say “I am a writer” and take action accordingly. Just because you may not know how to write doesn’t mean you don’t have the voice needed to be a writer. So you take some classes and gain your confidence, but you are no less a writer at the start of the process as opposed to the “end” of it, you are just improving. If you have an urge to heal and help people, say, “I’m a doctor” and go out there and acquire the knowledge to become the best healer you could imagine. It is not the certificate that determines what you are, it is your passion and drive to do your best within your field that does. 

It is the passion you feel today of being what you aspire to become that will drive you towards the embodiment of your destiny. If you cannot feel it today, then what hope do you have of knowing what it is you should become tomorrow? 

 If you’ve studied the “Law of Attraction” this concept is not new to you. However, it takes a belief system to get your head around the LoA, so what I am suggesting here is more common sense. When I work with corporate groups I tend to have to take a more pragmatic approach at first to establish a connection, which is why I can’t kick off with “the universe will deliver your dreams as long as you really want it”, I would lose most people doing that. The point is, you do not have to have a belief system to aspire achieve all that you want, you just have to want it, nor do you have to have a belief system to actually reach your goals, you just have to understand how to do it. 

When we get stuck in a rut and are out of alignment with our dreams and desires, we start installing negative self-talk into our subconscious. Many of us stay in this rut for a long time; whether it be relationships, jobs, locations or any other commitment that ceased to serve you. We start telling ourselves stories about how this all that we can achieve, deserve or want. We settle because in order to go for your dream now involves big changes, and we know that change is scary! It is this fear that gives that negative self-talk resonance.  The state of mind that allows all these negative thoughts to flourish will create crappy situations for you to deal with. Remember, you become what you are, whether that is negative or positive. Some times this is the path you need to take in order to end up at the cataclysmic change in your life thrust upon you that forces you to face your ultimate fears and make the changes that you didn’t have the courage to initiate yourself. This is not a path I recommend, trust me I’ve been there and done that. Even though  I am eternally grateful for my journey, I am sure you can get to where I am today without the pain and torment I had to endure, but sometimes you have to endure hell to appreciate heaven.  The good news for you is that you already have all the tools necessary to turn this ship around; desire, passion, persistence, faith and love. 

You have:

  • the desire to make changes
  • the persistence to not quit before the miracle
  • the passion for what you want to welcome into your life that you cannot imagine yourself feeling any other way
  • the faith in yourself that you can make changes and the faith that you deserve every little bit of good that you embody and that comes into your life
  • the love for yourself and others to change your mindset from a negative one to a positive one

If you disagree with anyone of these points I would ask you consider the following; ponder a challenge you are up against at the moment. Do you think that whether you are positive or negative is going to change the outcome of the challenge? It might, but in most cases it doesn’t (change and manifestation usually take a little time). However, you can choose to be miserable or content while waiting for the outcome to come about. If the outcome is less favourable to you, will that time you’ve spent from now until the outcome have an effect on how you deal with the “let down”? Absolutely! If you have built up a positive attitude you will be far more resilient to deal with it and not attach to the negativity of the outcome. The purpose of this elaboration is to show you it is all a matter of attitude. Your resistance to recognising the tools in the list above within yourself is a matter of attitude, it is all in your head or, if you like, in your ego. 

As Dr. Joe Dispenza suggests, “what fires together wires together”, i.e. you need to rewire your brain from firing on negative thoughts to positive ones. You need to start working on building up rekindling some of the love and passion that you have within. Basically, I am suggesting you need to lay the foundation to build the “you” that you want to become. You can do this through a combination of various ways:

  • Positive affirmations
  • Gratitude journaling 
  • Meditation
  • Mantras
  • Prayer 
  • Positive visualisations
  • Charity work

These are examples of tools that have helped me along my path. What you are, in essence, doing is raising your vibrations from negative wavelengths to positive ones based on gratitude, love and compassion. 

The next step is to start being what you want to become. You are not looking for a specific outcome, just the feeling you would have if that outcome came true. What I mean by this is that you should not attach yourself to the specific outcome as you will just complicate things with placing expectations on others and setting yourself up for disappointment if/when your specific outcome doesn’t materialise. No, what we are looking for is the feeling and emotion you want to embody in your desired outcome. The point here is that you do not have to wait for that scenario to come, you have to power to bring that feeling into the now. Being surprised by the scenario showing up matching your state of being is part of the fun. Some tools to use for this exercise are:

  • Vision board
  • Journaling about your future as it’s the present
  • Mike Dooley’s “The Matrix” (based on his book “Playing the Matrix“) 
  • Meditation
  • Visualisation

Again, these are just samples of tools you can use. There are many more tools to discover from a plethora of authors and coaches on the market today.

Once you embody these changes, emotions and feelings you will be driving your destiny on a path of happiness. The secret is really that the end is not of any consequence at all, it is enjoying the journey that matters. As you view the world through new eyes you will either discover that you are passionate about where you are currently at in your job, relationships, location, etc. and that you just had remind yourself of it. You will now add elements to your life that will help sustain your happiness; that could be a hobby, courses, or something else that will augment your life. On the other hand you may discover that one or several aspects in your life are not what they appear and that they do not match what you are. Because of you raising your vibration and having experienced your future, you no longer have the level of fear, or same type of fear, relating to taking action for your happiness. Whereas before, when you were clogged by negativity and fear, you now cannot fathom remaining in a situation that does not match who you are. You are now taking action to change your circumstances to prepare space for that what you want to become to arrive. 

In my work with groups in corporations it is amazing to witness how groups evolve by helping the members shift their attitudes. As each member of a group starts shifting their focus and attitude they also start understanding their individual responsibility to what energy they bring to any group. When you realise your accountability for your own happiness and that no external factor has any power over you, the change will become easier and you will see the ripple effect to those around you. You have to be what you want to become to contribute your best to the collective and to create a better world. We all do.

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