Resisting life is the counteraction to flow
“Be like water making its way through cracks. Don’t be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.” – Bruce Lee
Flow is a state of mind and an experience where we are in full alignment with our authentic selves, our passion and purpose. It is a perspective of life where we perceive challenges from a perspective of acceptance and they are no longer unsurmountable obstacles.
Flow does evade most of us; why is that? To answer that, let’s look at the stages of how to actually move into the state of flow.
- Set clear goals and have clear visions, and know why you want to get there.
- Allow life to happen for you, not to you.
- Align yourself with your true essence and autenthicity.
- Show up as a role model to be the change you want to see in your life.
If you don’t know what you want out of life you are unlikely going to be able to tap into you your passion. Passion is the fuel that propels the flow state. Many of us just get on with our “good” jobs and hope to be happy one day. In order to connect with one’s passion one has to make active and brave choices.
When we resist challenges in life and keep telling our victim stories, we keep ourselves low in vibration. We have an attitude of “life is happening to me”. When we choose to accept what life has to give us in whatever experiences we have, we can reveal the gifts that they have for you. This is when we allow life to happen for us and we can write our hero’s story. Our frequency can then be maintained at a level where we can allow flow to come in to our lives.
Carl Rogers said that it is in our innate nature to create congruency between our true essence (ideal self) and self-image. So when we are out of alignment between who we think we are and who we truly are, we keep busy trying to align them without realising it. Hence, we don’t consciously realise that we are not in alignement and don’t understand where you energy is being directed.
The biggest challenge to holding your vibrations high, apart from not doing the work on your core wounds, is energetic pollution in our surroundings. When we do our work on ourselves and show up as role models, we attract people that we resonate with and are able to let go of the ones we don’t. People will also look at you and want to emulate that flow that you are in, feeding your own flow at the same time.
Moving into flow is rarely an instantaneous shift, but, rather, a gradual one over time. If you were to drill down into each of these points further, you will notice there are underlying practices and concepts to consider. We do have to put in the work and have patience and then one day, out of the blue, we will find ourselves in flow.
The path might be winding and trying, but the rewards along the way are plentiful and well worth it. So, ask yourself the question, “Am I living with full purpose and passion in every aspect of my life?”. If the answer is no, you have have some choices to make.
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Also published on Medium.