Being able to feel guilt and shame is good
“Watch out for each other. Love everyone and forgive everyone, incluyding yourself. Forgive your anger. Forgive your guilt. Your shame. Your sadness. Embrace and open up your love, your joy, your truth, and most especially, your heart” – Jim Henson, Creator of the Muppets.
David R. Hawkins (https://veritaspub.com/) his scale of consciousness in his book “Power vs. Force”, more commonly referred to as the “Hawkins Scale”. It measures one’s level of consciousness, by a function of emotion that you hold in your body, on a scale between 0 and 1000. We can measure this by the single emotion that traverses your body or the embodiment of emotion that you hold. Guilt and shame are the two emotions, or rather energies, that hold the lowest frequency and are the most damaging to ourselves. Psycho and Sociopaths lack the ability to experience these emotions, but contrary to popular beliefs, sufferers of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) experience deep levels of shame, it is one of the starting points for that condition. However, they do not experience guilt. Guilt and shame are useful as communication tool from ourselves to let our consciousness know that we are doing something or behaving in a way that is out of alignment with our authenticity. As described earlier, if you lack the ability to feel these emotions, I recommend you see a mental health professional.
The major problem for most people is that we do not realise that we have a choice in letting go of shame and guilt (shame being “I am bad” and guilt “I did something bad”). Some might realise their choice, but find reasons why they should choose to hold on to these emotions. Hold on to them long enough and they become embodied. These choices are always, in the end, based on an external factor, such as “If I don’t hold on to it, who will?” or “If I don’t feel shameful or guilty, people will think that I am callous and don’t care”. More often than not these thoughts are based on assumptions of the expectations of others. Again, more often than not, these assumptions are false, there is, in fact, no one judging you. However, even if there is, does that force you to make a choice whether or not to hold on to guilt and shame? You can learn more about your relationship with judgement in the article and podcast called “Judgement“. The bottom line is that others judging you has more to do with their experiences than with you. The choice is yours.
The length of time that you hold on to the emotion is up to you, but a rule of thumb is that when you have understood and embodied the lesson or the communication that the emotion is there to give you, it will release itself. At that point you have already accepted the experience and forgiven yourself. That could be 10 minutes or 80 years, or anything in between and beyond, it is up to you. When you do release these energies from your body, you will feel lighter and more free as they tend to hold you tightly wound and tied to them.
Working through core wounds and emotions takes practice. Starting with shifting your mindset and the way you view your emotions. Start practicing observing your emotions from the perspective of your awareness without judgement. This will allow you to experience your emotions without attaching to and acting out on them. You will also be able to change your thought patterns from perpetuating the emotion to understanding them. Showing yourself compassion for your experiences, accepting them and forgiving yourself and others will then lead you to understanding why that experience was there and how you can learn about yourself from it.
The Infinity Life (theinfinity.life) has an 8-week programme that gives you the tools that can help you clear your core wounds and the energetic blockages you hold. At The Alchemy Experience (thealchemyexperience.co.uk) we also work with our clients to resource and empower them to meet these challenges in their lives.