Let the Old Fall by the Wayside and Welcome the New
You’re sitting there forcing yourself to do the most mundane and simple tasks just to have your business ticking over. You are completely lost for options, what you have known for so long no longer holds any appeal. Your passion is gone and your fire fuelling that passion has been extinguished.
Could I have started this article any more dark? Yes, I could’ve! You’re alive and kicking, but at your own personal crossroad. Now, you should probably have looked yourself in the mirror a while ago and asked the hard questions, but most of us don’t until we come to the stop sign. It’s part of our human nature. It is when we hit rock bottom that we can truly let go and surrender to life. When that happens we enter a state of pure serenity and bliss as you are completely in the present. You have no fear because you are at your lowest but you are still here to tell the tale. This is the rebirth moment and used properly can propel you to new heights.
Sure, once you start to settle back to earth you do have some heavy emotional lifting to do; dealing with the self-imposed guilt and shame of having let yourself get to that point, facing the issues that brought you to that point. A lot of times we have to go even further back to discover the true sources of our issues.
It takes bravery to venture in to this type of recovery and healing of yourself. You will encounter darkness and shadows within and of yourself that you have suppressed. The pot of gold is, however, at the end of the rainbow and you will come through it with renewed and reinvigorated energy that will nor run out because you have dealt with all those experiences that subconsciously still held sway over you.
Some say you need to separate your personal and business lives; that, as far as I am concerned, is an impossibility. You do need balance, but your life needs to be approached from a holistic point of view. Any aspect of your life will impact on another. Your situation at the cross roads is no different, it is a crossroads of your life. Hence, approach you own healing from this holistic point of view as well. Analyse the following:
- Where do the Imbalances in your life lie?
- What negative experiences in your life are responsible for the blue print of your personality?
- What external influences are not aligned with your desires?
- What habits tend to backfire on you?
- Are you looking after yourself mentally and physically?
- Do you create space for yourself?
Once you started (truthfully) answering these questions, you will have an list of challenges that you need to address in order to get back on track. Of course, those challenges have corresponding action items, which will depend on your desires and goals. Some of these could include:
- Spending more time with your partner and/or children.
- Investing in counselling.
- Review of who you associate with.
- Reorganisation of your business.
- Start a process to re-programme your habits to a set of positive ones.
- Start exercising and changing your dietary habits.
- Start meditating.
These points and the ones above are starting points, but will at least get you thinking about how you can become the best version of yourself.
I wish you the very best and know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in your life! You are enough!
Also published on Medium.