Patience is the gateway to experience the joy of life
“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet” – Aristotle
Our level of patience is a measure of how timely we will experience what we set our intention to experience. Patience doesn’t speed up your journey the same way impatience would slow it down. When we are patient we trust in our journey and trust in perfect timing (or for those that are so inclined; devine timing). It implies unconditional trust in that we will receive what we are supposed to in the time we are supposed to. Whereas patience indicates flow, impatiece manifests resistance. However, don’t mistake patience for inertia. Patience is the ability to stay the course and take action at the exact right moment and the ability to wait for what is coming for you and know that it is coming when it supposed to. When your boundaries are intact you aren’t influenced by anything else but your internal guidance, not to be confused by the consicous mind, leaving external pressures aside.
When we practice patience we are without fear, but completely open to the opportunities that come our way, using our intution and guidance to know when to act and when to be still. Directly out of it comes; acceptance, trust, non-judgement, flow and non-resistance.
Patience is a skill we learn with determination and practice. The catch-22 is that we probably could use some patience while developing it, but we will have to look in out toolboxes to see what resources we have that can benefit us in that journey. Below are four aspects to practice to develop it (some of them will remind you of “The Four Agreements”):
- Don’t assume you know anything about anybody else.
- Don’t take anything personally
- Know what you can and can’t control
- Always do your best
Our patience with others will improve if we don’t let them get to you. Their actions and words are a projection of their experiences, and have nothing to do with us. Also, because we do not know someones full life story, how they think, feel and are, we cannot assume to know their motivation for projecting what they project. Heck, we don’t even know ourseleves 100%, so how could we know others better?
Knowing and accepting what we can and can’t control can release you from a heavy burden of responsiblity. Essentially, you can only control your thougts, your words and your actions, everything else is outside your perview, so why worry about it. Similarily, accepting the fluctuations in our resourcing as to do our best helps us develop patience with our own imperfections.
When you are guided by your intiution, strive to be in flow and have patience with your own path and the path of others, you stand to gain life itself.